… Because Love Is Never Enough.
Have you ever wondered why some relationships don’t end in marriage? Or why some marriages don’t succeed, couples living in the agony of having to accommodate themselves? Had to think of how, along a dating relationship it seems like you no longer had the crazy bubbles you initially did, then you wonder if you still love this person or ever did? Ever had to think of why not all dating couples get to marry because there is always something petty that springs up and causes argument? Then you are amazed at how even some couples who don’t seem readily in love are able to pull through the storm, ending up well?
At this point you’d begin to realize how… Love isn’t all it takes to keep a relationship or marriage going.
I’ve got to this point quite a number of moments in my personal life and again I brisk myself out of this thought (just in case it is a negative one, ha-ha). But here again I am forced back into this realization. I’ve always tried to push this thought to the last of my brain archive in an attempt to make love move to its uppermost ability #smiling, but somehow in the event of life, it always gush back.
… And then I found this e-book!
Let’s take it from the top here…
We all must know that indeed Loving is deliberate. It is a conscious act and effort to accepting the whole of another person not because they are perfect or deserving of it but because it is who you are (1 John 2 vs 5), (1 John 4 vs 8, 12,16). – And this is only if you know Christ (1 John 5 vs 1), else that love is not a true kind of love (1 John 4 vs 20).
I still remember telling somebody very recently in one of my counseling sessions how I knew Love was almost never the issue in a relationship but the Act of Forgiving is. We humans get tired of accommodating! It could be understanding especially when the offender in that case just insist on doing the same mistake over and over, not wanting to adhere to correction or just plainly stubborn.
But let me tell you here that some people seem to be doing the same mistakes because they happen to be doing it in a different way perhaps. It becomes a responsibility for you “the offended” to have the heart of patience and the display of the many fruits of the spirit (Galatians 5 vs 22-23). Times will come when it would seem impossible to go ahead with this person you thought you loved. Times where this person just seem too difficult to understand or accept. In those times, we can call “Test of Love”, something much more than love or other than love has to be used to ‘bring’ back the seemingly lost love.
So, let me with pleasure refer you to this e-book I earlier spoke about, which I’m also still digesting to get even other meanings to things I’ve learnt from it … By GARY CHAPMAN titled “Things I wish I knew Before Getting Married”. Marriage and even the stages before it would definitely be much better with knowledge as this as indeed, Love is much more than ‘the tingles’ we feel. And yes, also by same author—I’m looking forward to doing an excerpt here on the blog from one of his other books “The Five Love Languages” soon… I’m excited already!
You want a copy of the e-book? Then just ping me on D622EFBA or via email- Horptieluv4ril@yahoo.com – indicating in the subject your request, and I’d gladly share (it’s FREE). You could also decide to download online. Kindly read my ABOUT page to follow up on our social media platforms, Thank You.