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… Because Love Is Never Enough


… Because Love Is Never Enough.

Have you ever wondered why some relationships don’t end in marriage? Or why some marriages don’t succeed, couples living in the agony of having to accommodate themselves? Had to think of how, along a dating relationship it seems like you no longer had the crazy bubbles you initially did, then you wonder if you still love this person or ever did?  Ever had to think of why not all dating couples get to marry because there is always something petty that springs up and causes argument? Then you are amazed at how even some couples who don’t seem readily in love are able to pull through the storm, ending up well?

At this point you’d begin to realize how… Love isn’t all it takes to keep a relationship or marriage going.

I’ve got to this point quite a number of moments in my personal life and again I brisk myself out of this thought (just in case it is a negative one, ha-ha). But here again I am forced back into this realization. I’ve always tried to push this thought to the last of my brain archive in an attempt to make love move to its uppermost ability #smiling, but somehow in the event of life, it always gush back.

… And then I found this e-book!

Let’s take it from the top here…
We all must know that indeed Loving is deliberate. It is a conscious act and effort to accepting the whole of another person not because they are perfect or deserving of it but because it is who you ar­­­­­­e (1 John 2 vs 5), (1 John 4 vs 8, 12,16). – And this is only if you know Christ (1 John 5 vs 1), else that love is not a true kind of love (1 John 4 vs 20).

I still remember telling somebody very recently in one of my counseling sessions how I knew Love was almost never the issue in a relationship but the Act of Forgiving is. We humans get tired of accommodating! It could be understanding especially when the offender in that case just insist on doing the same mistake over and over, not wanting to adhere to correction or just plainly stubborn.

But let me tell you here that some people seem to be doing the same mistakes because they happen to be doing it in a different way perhaps. It becomes a responsibility for you “the offended” to have the heart of patience and the display of the many fruits of the spirit (Galatians 5 vs 22-23). Times will come when it would seem impossible to go ahead with this person you thought you loved. Times where this person just seem too difficult to understand or accept. In those times, we can call “Test of Love”, something much more than love or other than love has to be used to ‘bring’ back the seemingly lost love.
So, let me with pleasure refer you to this e-book I earlier spoke about, which I’m also still digesting to get even other meanings to things I’ve learnt from it … By GARY CHAPMAN titled “Things I wish I knew Before Getting Married”. Marriage and even the stages before it would definitely be much better with knowledge as this as indeed, Love is much more than ‘the tingles’ we feel. And yes, also by same author—I’m looking forward to doing an excerpt here on the blog from one of his other books “The Five Love Languages” soon… I’m excited already!

You want a copy of the e-book? Then just ping me on D622EFBA or via email- – indicating in the subject your request, and I’d gladly share (it’s FREE). You could also decide to download online. Kindly read my ABOUT page to follow up on our social media platforms, Thank You.

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  • Ben
    October 26, 2017 at 3:28 pm

    Wow! Great stuff! Love never ever fails. Love is not a tingling feeling you have when your emotions or hormones are rising but it’s a decision , a dogged commitment to treat another person better than he/she treats you irrespective of their action towards you.
    In the context of a romantic relationship it is a commitment to make the relationship work notwithstanding what it might take… If such commitment is rooted in the heart of both partners then the relationship would stand the test of time if not it would crumble at the slightest provocation.

    • horptie
      October 26, 2017 at 5:14 pm

      You get my point!
      In the romantic relationship as you cited there, I would like to add that at some point where you “try to make it work notwithstanding “, you might have to let it go. Of course that is when indeed you can satisfactorily say you did all you could but your partner was adamant. Because you have to realize it takes two to tangle and not just one party doing all the work else you’d get weary of it especially when it becomes a life time journey – Marriage.
      Thank you for dropping by!

  • Ben
    October 26, 2017 at 8:40 pm

    Hmmm…Let it go?I beg to disagree. You can’t let it go especially when you are married to the person in question. The Bible vehemently discourages divorce. The only ground for divorce being infidelity. Even at that we are encouraged to forgive. I believe love truly conquer all things. It covers the multitude of faults.
    However, the case would be different if the impasse was in a courtship. Both parties could ‘let it go” if it is not working out well. As it’s usually said a “broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.” I rest my case.

    • horptie
      October 26, 2017 at 8:45 pm

      Do you then say to hold on to something that is lost already in a relationship?
      Ofcourse in marriage it’s a whole different ball game, it is for better or for worse and that’s the more reason one should carefully and diligently seek before taking that step. And I beg to say infidelity isn’t the only reason I’d permit divorce, domestic violence is more reason than that.
      Indeed love conquers all, I just said it takes much more than only love to conquer it all.

  • olufumike
    October 27, 2017 at 12:37 pm

    Nyc work


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