WHY DO LADIES CHEAT!?
In this season! How has it been with you guys? Mine has been marked out with so many activities that I have been too busy achieving to enjoy … but it is fine, because sometimes that’s the way to go #winks.
So still on the matter… WHY DO LADIES CHEAT!? Have you been able to come up with more reasons aside those we talked about last week … or we should just go on to those others I have on my list? Here…
- Another one that comes closely after the previous point listed is – The Insensitivity Of The Guy. Some guys are super good in spending time with their partners but trust me when I say they lack in what really is ‘Spending Quality Time’. They are always there but never really feeling what’s up with the other person. They don’t really understand the technique of dealing with/getting involved with a lady and her emotions. Being sensitive requires a little more close attentiveness than just giving attention. It is being patient, knowing her needs, being responsive, tender, compassionate, aware, yes AWARE of something more than what’s on the surface that you’ve been presented with when it comes to her emotional state, needs and other little (almost seeming insignificant) details about her.
- A guy being too bossy is another underlying factor that doesn’t seem like it but is it. Some unknowingly don’t know they have a dominating attitude while some actually can’t do without it and some others just stay bent on being naughty, still, it doesn’t justify the act of the lady cheating. I get the part the lady is unable to approach him for a conversation, can’t give opinion even for his progress… doesn’t mean you have to run to someone who could patiently listen without judging. What to do? Talk to your guy, make him understand and see things you don’t like that he is doing. Else, leave the relationship because I tell you… It’s their ego (not a justifiable reason too) but it’s a whole lot better than the emotional trauma cheating would bring. It’s not too late to drop that defensive guard and learn to really communicate and relate with that special somebody.
- Revenge! This is a common way of stabbing someone you feel has wronged you. Never ever justify your reason for cheating on your partner with any other reason. I somewhat can relate to the pains of an heartbreak because in a few of my counselling session, there was a total break down in tears of some persons and me being an emotional person, was at liberty to feel… so yes I know it can be terrible, heart shattering but I will tell you something – you always would get back up once there is sincerity of apology from the guy backed with actions of not repeating it. Trying to get back at the guy is the wrongest way of wanting him to feel remorseful for hurting you, plus two wrongs don’t make a right. Because the lady feels hurt or humiliated, she decides to (immaturely though) try to give the guy a dose of pain from his own drugs. But hear the bad news in it, Revenge has many ways than one that allows such actions backfire at and seriously doing lots of hurts without repairs to both the doer and the intending receiver. So please… FORGIVE it and FORGET, and with sincerity, NEVER make such act repeat itself.
- Finally, from me of course (because I look forward to more of yours from your view) is – Unforeseen Circumstances… You believe somethings just happen unintentionally. You being at the wrong place at the wrong time with friend(s) and one thing leads to another, sensual feelings occur and you have/are cheating on your boyfriend already. This is why the scriptures (New Living Translation) says… Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course (events) of your life.
So in all, Take serious thoughts on every of your actions. Be reasonable, understanding, rational and logical at all times because what it seems might not always be what it really is. Get to know your partner’s behavior, that would help a long way to how you respond to situations that comes up, be there for them while they learn to believe that you really are there to stay. Also (for both parties), always remember… speaking up and really communicating with patience, not leaving the other person to assume or to find out on their own is the way to go in every relationship.
See you next year guys… I love you!