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The Quest for Peace: THE WRONG MOTIVE

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The Quest for Peace: THE WRONG MOTIVE.

Why do you for peace sake condone and tolerate so much nonsense? How and why do you keep quiet when obviously, speaking out should have been the real deal? You sickly endure because you assume there’s some good somewhere down the line, whereas addressing the issue right away would have yielded greater results. Why let your guts be trampled upon? Because, it’s funny how we dismiss reflex thoughts that are instilled by God to be a guide for us; how we assume our brains could be playing a dead-end trick on us; all because we want to be/appear good! How we let loopholes into our communities by allowing bad acts go without addressing them.

Oh you say…

“Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth’’ (Matthew 5:5) – is the reward for being stupidly silent?

Oh my, I say you need a brain-check.

Or you think…

“Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the Children of God” (Matthew 5:9) – infers a justification for your insensible holding back from challenging a person who doesn’t seem to get the fact that being silent isn’t you playing the fool, – or that being silent sometimes isn’t you accommodating or giving them the room to bring forth more insoluble acts – . (Or the fact that you being silent sometimes doesn’t mean you would be silent all the time).
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Here I pray thee – , _“Go back to the scriptures to seek wise counsel!”_

And again, you encourage yourself as Christ has instructed that we be peaceful and loving to our neighbors, you thereby decide to find solace in that scriptural verse that says…

“Blessed are ye when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely for my (God’s) sake. Rejoice and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you” (Matthew 5: 11-12)

Or that…

“Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written; Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord” (Romans 12:19).

Boy Oh Boy, I say, be ye then ready to die hellishly here on earth first because I categorically can say that humans will trample feet-dirty on you. Except of course they repent of these acts.

You say holding your peace for a silly destructible being who could get away with a disgusting act which should have been corrected immediately is the only way to letting peace reign!?
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For I say, the same scripture has been given unto us with tips on discernment of good and wise from bad and stupid (Romans 16:19, Ecclesiastes 7:16-17 ; which say “Be not righteous over much; neither make thyself over wise: why should thou destroy thyself”). As much as the whole Bible says we should entirely place judgement in God’s hands because that verse clearly would be contradicting it, let’s understand that Solomon in there wasn’t concentrating on godly character but on how we modify it in our own eyes as some have misleadingly interpreted the verse to mean: knowing that there may be mistakes that could be paid for with our lives or those of a next person which should have been prevented. Clearly, we should understand that exercising wisdom, weighing what is in our capacity to control or withdraw in the last minute moments with no rectification determines how eventually the right path can be efficiently played out. Also see (Ecclesiastes 7:12) that says, “FOR WISDOM IS A DEFENSE, and money is a defense: BUT THE EXCELLENCY OF KNOWLEDGE IS THAT WISDOM GIVETH LIFE TO THEM THAT HAVE IT”).

All of these I have said up there are my own personal thoughts/verdict as to how the thread I came across (with the “ #divorcediaries ” ; I really think you should check it out on twitter) should have been handled.

The thread of that ‘hashtag’ discussion is on how a marriage inevitably had to end on the basis that the lady unknowingly got married to a gay guy, stuck to a no-sex relationship for 4years altogether while he continually practiced this act with her very own father, and the mother knowing about it all along kept mute up until the destructive level it got the lady into. The lady recently decided to get a divorce without exposing the guy to save her family’s name. This guy would probably get married to another unsuspecting lady who would also be stuck in the fiendish problem.

… And this trend will most likely keep going as a practice in our society ’cept for those who can take a bold-NO step against it …
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As a colleague has rightly said, the way our mothers perceive (d) marriage is that you must go through all the hell in it irrespective of what happens. But I say fortunately, seems like our generation might just have another notion to it which is all for the better.

I happen to also sometimes fall victim of keeping quiet especially when I am not getting an audience or the right attention in which to vent my expression or opinion on an issue that should be addressed … I normally would just withdraw (even though I highly doubt I would in an event as the one listed with the ‘hashtag’), still, I realize we all (mostly ladies) need to take a firm stand against and about some decisions; I very well would want to hear your opinions on this above listed issue or any other scenarios and how you would advise decisions or verdict should be taken.

With Love Always,
Horptie.

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Colleagues call me Horptie, friends and family call me Titilope, my favorite though is Tytylurpe. I am a combination of all three. A Relationship Counselor, rational psych, transitionist yet a whelming being in all sense of the word.

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  • Wale
    March 22, 2018 at 4:30 pm

    Well to be candid i think it’s not just a relationship thing between a man and a woman but it is a serious case happening in our everyday life. By the time you keep bottling all the oppression and anger you feel towards your oppressor, there comes a time when you eventually act wrongly for the right reasons. I as an individual have little tolerance for oppression after which i tend to give you double of your bullying and craps. It has helped me command respect from everyone who knows me overtime. I believe it will work for everyone to stand up for the things they bellieve in.

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    • horptie
      March 22, 2018 at 4:45 pm

      Hmmm… this is deep and on another dimension😊! I think it shouldn’t even be suppressed; address it but with love… and make sure the other party enforces the right reactions to it. Thank you so much.

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  • Babatunde moses
    March 23, 2018 at 12:03 am

    A job weldone dear. A closed mouth is a closed destiny . When he or she is in pain. You must cry for help, this boils down to addiction too. You meet someone whom you think is experienced and has listening ears. Persistent domestic violence leads to death. I realise for ladies, it quite had for them to make concrete decisions because they have been entangled with emotions. You must learn to take decisions that are best for you. It is well.

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    • horptie
      March 23, 2018 at 8:11 am

      Ohh very true! I like the aspect you dived this into. Yes and Yes, where there is a need for help; Never ever fail to cry out…. that could just be the saving grace for yet another chance.
      Very well said sir, thank you.

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  • eromosele
    March 24, 2018 at 9:54 pm

    i love this.. very true

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    • horptie
      March 25, 2018 at 11:34 am

      Yes it is a wake up call to us all! Thank you for stopping by

      Reply

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