Do you sometimes wonder how a man can be extremely driven to excel at his work? How he is able to stay at that desk all day, round the clock? How that lady is able to strive effectively at work and at the same time give all the needed love, care and attention to her family?
Or how a man can shut his eyes to the many other ‘skirts’ out there to rather stay decent and faithful to the woman he has professed love to?
How do you show the one you love what you feel? How do you challenge yourself into giving more than the usual dose of attention to that person you cherish? Do you speak love but know not how to act it, or how to make visible to the next person?
Exactly! To Love is to be Consistent. To be Consistent is to be Dependable. When people can rely on you, it means they are moved by your show of Commitment towards them.
And this, keeps trust.
Why do you think many relationships breakup (including the ones that have been going on for so long)? Or even marriages that fail, what can mostly be associated with the fall? Or those that take their partners for granted, expecting them to always understand their schedule or to know that their feelings towards them hasn’t changed.
There should always be an action to show for your claims. No, I am not meant to just understand. You need to tell me. Show it to me.
You need to convince me with your being available to make this relationship work. I am human too. I deserve and want attention.
Mere words without an act is absolutely nothing; insignificant.
Commitment is the act or instance’s’ (the emphasis is to show it is not a one-time act) where one party sincerely fulfils a duty to another party; a duty one takes upon one’s self: not imposed or enforced or compelled, rather a desired sensation – personal interest.
It is the stance where a vow of trust, love, dedication is guaranteed, backed up by corresponding action of loyalty. It is also learning to be patient, tolerant and accommodating of your partner, that despite many odds you choose to love them.
Yes did you get that? I say, it is when you promise, either verbally or within yourself, to stay loyal to someone you claim to love – your “act” of devotion to this person. A sense of responsibility towards this person. It is fulfilment of love to the person.
Commitment is an unwritten pledge. An exciting and comfortable activity. Maybe not always smooth or easy, but as an after-effect from a preceding feeling or emotion, it becomes a bond. A voluntary attitude of sweetness and attentiveness to the one(s) who ought to get it, those that deserve it.
It is an orientation you call your mind to note, then perform. It is to make a compromise, an unashamed responsibility of a love-charge.
It is a faithful devotion of one’s self to something or someone; Relationship – A strong cord of true friendship.
Commitment is the laying down of your time because you want someone else to share in its value.
It is an intense act of attentiveness. It isn’t an obsession over somebody (or something) but rather, it is fidelity. It is discipline in yourself by maintaining a balance in the midst of all the stuff going on around you, and still being able to include more to it as actively engaging in another person’s life and pulling through all of these in ‘fineness’.
It is taking the walk together and actually working together in the relationship or friendship. It is a joint effort, jointly appreciated. It is a blend of effort from both parties that are in love with each other. It is a sign of one’s willingly to keep alive an emotion felt.
This is why a love can last.
Also always remember, Never push a loyal person to the point where they stop caring (or no longer want to care).
Know this, Commitment is simply being Consistent!
A Note to you,
From Your Sweetheart,