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Married Men Wahala!

It’s been so long hearing from me right?

I’m sorry I left it off for this long but yayyy- we are back guys! Horptiehottalks.com (formerly horptie.wordpress.com) is back and here with full force…

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So I had (have) this guy friend that was always calling and checking up, you know that sorta…

We met at my former place of work. He was

a regular client and I was a polite and friendly Client Relations Officer, and so we clicked, as many other persons I have had to attend to, or let me say a lot of them and not all.

Anyways, this dude whenever he called was always fusing about how I haven’t checked on him nor reciprocated any of his calls and I’m like the number of times I’ve wanted to, he was always beating me to it by calling yet again (If you know, you know 💁‍♀️).

I recall seeing a band on his ring finger but I wasn’t sure… he looked young plus it doesn’t always seem to count as married nowadays with how people have taken fashion but nonetheless I was being careful and maybe a little reserved when it comes to him and how I dealt with all the talks of “let’s hang out”… I played my smart card a lot in here 🤭🤭 .

Long story short, only recently I decided to add his contact to the phone I have my WhatsApp activated so I could check up randomly via chat and not unnecessarily forming calls and thinking of stuff to say on the phone to reduce weirdness.

Yes, we chatted a few times till boom, baba picture-mixed himself and a newly born child and wrote of how happy he was and how he couldn’t believe he was a dad!

Lawd!!

Well, being me, I responded to the post and congratulated him. He responded and almost immediately resumed the how he didnt believe he was a dad and blah talks.

So I asked…

“Weren’t you expecting that the whole journey of nine (9) months will come to an end?” (Peradventure that would prompt him to say he didn’t know the lady was pregnant the whole time or something). Baba replied that he was but “it doesn’t change what he has for me”… you are permitted to blink small here because even I that was being spoken to there had to read again to know I saw that right!!!

And I’m like, “aren’t you legally married?”

He responded that he is.

I had to ask again that doesn’t he love his wife… He said he does!! And that he does with his whole life!!! I replied with “Awesome” and finished off the talk how it should, politely…

How!?

My God!

How do these guys do it!!? How do they

claim to love and respect their spouse and do stuff as disgusting as cheating  and also make unsuspecting single ladies suffer in the process.

And trust me, this is personally not my first experience. If I didn’t have a renewed mind, I would have thought so much on how many of those sorta encounters I’ve had and probably related him to some bad women but I realize some can just be that plainly dirty people! Sad thing is, they know and really do not care!!!

Anyways, that’s not the talk…

Talk is, is there any enlightenment you’d like to share on this because I bloody am irritated!!!

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Colleagues call me Horptie, friends and family call me Titilope, my favorite though is Tytylurpe. I am a combination of all three. A Relationship Counselor, rational psych, transitionist yet a whelming being in all sense of the word.

15 Comments

  • Ben
    October 17, 2019 at 10:13 am

    It’s sad but that’s one of the realities most single ladies deal with day in day out. My advice to ladies, just be careful there are many wolves in sheep clothing.

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    • horptie
      October 17, 2019 at 5:58 pm

      Actually really sad oo, God help us all. Truth is it is a both-side thing. I think I’ll give an insight to what I mean here in another post…

      Thank you for your contribution

      Reply
  • Anonymous
    October 17, 2019 at 10:28 am

    Not surprised here, a guy at work just admitted he cheats on his wife like it was no big deal. Most people need to find purpose before partner.

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    • horptie
      October 17, 2019 at 5:56 pm

      … even to the extent of admitting to the public!!! Hmmm, this is some deep stuff.

      Oh Lord, help us to find our right person only according to Your will and give each and everyone of us the grace to stand firm in You alone in all our doings…. Amen.

      Thank you for your contribution

      Reply
  • Married Men Wahala! – horptie
    October 17, 2019 at 10:28 am

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  • Michael
    October 17, 2019 at 12:40 pm

    Hehehehehehehe 😂

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    • horptie
      October 17, 2019 at 5:50 pm

      Ha ha… are you trying to laugh at me!? Wehdone! Better coman tell us your own experiences even as a guy💁‍♀️

      Reply
  • Olufunmilayo
    October 17, 2019 at 1:23 pm

    Truth is some “married” men out there do not have an inkling what being married is about. Hence single ladies should be wary of these kind lest an emotional wreckage is created. Do your research well enough before letting your guards down.

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    • horptie
      October 17, 2019 at 5:53 pm

      I tell you o! I totally can agree… being married is an in depth of so many things they have little or no knowledge how to carry on in there.
      Hey Sisters out there… take the advice given in there really seriously even to avoid getting married to an already married man!

      Thank you so much for your contribution.

      Reply
  • Toyosi
    October 17, 2019 at 7:47 pm

    Nice write up. I am here to read comments……..

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    • horptie
      October 17, 2019 at 7:55 pm

      Ha ha ha, lady!
      I’m glad you are here… thanks for taking the time out to read up

      Reply
  • Daniel
    October 21, 2019 at 11:14 pm

    The single ladies should make they do a thorough research

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    • horptie
      October 22, 2019 at 5:14 am

      I couldn’t agree less!! Ladies, be patient in giving in to “toasts”, lol.
      A guy asking you out now now doesn’t mean you reply immediately especially when you have that inner mind screaming uncertainty. Plus never ignore warning signs, no matter how perfect a person carves himself to be /look like, there will always be loopholes…

      Thank you so much Daniel for taking the time out here!

      Reply
  • Elvis
    October 26, 2019 at 5:54 pm

    I wonder why married men can not stick to the ones they vowed to be with “for better or for worse,in good and bad times”. My advice is for single ladies to do a proper check before getting into a relationship.

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    • horptie
      October 26, 2019 at 8:14 pm

      Well one could say lack of contentment plus lack of control over self. But I guess guys could give a better reason right? Lol.

      Thank you for stopping by Elvis!

      Reply

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