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Sometimes, loving involves letting go

Sometimes, loving involves letting go.

So I have a friend who was having a bad time in his relationship. He talked to me about it. I talked him through it because I wanted him to be a better person for himself and of course the heart that was tied to his.

After all that, in my private space, I realized I sorta wanted their relationship to end because yes, I liked him. But immediately I realised what my mind was doing, I gave it the run for it.

So am I a bad person? I don’t want to believe so.


I am human. I would only want good stuff for myself.
Knowing how crazy functional the mind is and knowing how and what it should produce will always give you an edge on how to handle or control it.

It is powerful. It strays. And this is why what you take in, who you allow to feed it or stay around it, how you nurture it, what you nourish it with really, really matters.

Arm yourself with the Word Of God!! Remember to put on the whole armour of God. The Word of God saves, it heals, it delivers, it directs, it guides, it makes whole!!
Every single thing, like every single thing, situation, problem, occurrence, scenarios, every thing is addressed in this book. You see how well taken care of you are by Christ!?? I don’t know how to emphasize that more. How complete the Holy Book is!!!

Good books too help a whole lot. Listen to good tapes that will edify your mind and thinking.

Don’t lose track here, I still have a lot to say… so please, follow on.

Don’t demean yourself for what you think, rather what do you do with these thoughts?

How often do you allow these kinds of thoughts, then how long do you entertain them swimming in your head? Do you keep these thoughts somewhere in your memory vaults to pounce on it later at your free time especially when you know nobody can ever discover what is in those vaults?

Our thoughts are permitted to be wild. It shows we are capable of so much more than we can visibly see right now and I believe that is good.
I mean, we can get to be creative, we can practicalise, achieve and ofcourse win. It means we can be great if we

choose to with the help of our minds getting to create something worthy out of nothing.

But this very well also means we can destroy! Dammit, did you get that??!

We can rule and reign with it, as well as demolish and ultimately destroy… if we let it.

How do we hear them say the mind is powerful and when it breeds thoughts, one way or around it, these things come to life, I mean, they happen! (Provs 4:23), (Provs 23:7)

So when someone even hurts me, I just really try to shut my mind. I try hard not to overthink it because trust me, it starts from there and then you start forming thoughts on how the person ought to have behaved which you think is right… but the person didn’t and that’s what makes all humans different – our thinking patterns. You can’t force someone to behave in a way because you think it’s a right way. They don’t think the same and that doesn’t justify your thinking is actually right. Theirs could be as well depending on what individuals consider to be good for them at that point. I do hope you got that. So it is okay to think one way and have the other person think the extreme other way. Just try as much as possible to ensure that you are doing the best you think for all at that point… be rational – weigh all options, put yourself in all the positions of that situation then give a best opinion.

So I mentioned me being human right? How about being a better human… yes. So I have to be a better human by also

wishing good stuff for every other person out there, those you know and may not inclusive. Me knowing I want good stuff for everyone reguided my thoughts. It made me realise I am not the only one entitled to receiving the good stuff. So I intentionally started hoping in my heart that that relationship worked out and guess what… I got the news!! Man is doing so so much better with the heart and the heart is just as happy as should be. And honestly, I am glad.

I am glad because i know now that my powerful mind will not be one to bring an end to that relationship. I am glad because I do feel like I am a better person. I am glad because my heart has released what isn’t mine and will be able to cling to that which will be mine.

Know that nobody is really ever wrong, depends on the angle of contention.

Do you choose to nurture good or bad stuff… think about this really well.

Your humble space-friend-in-love,

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  • Omeiza Owuda
    May 14, 2020 at 9:57 am

    Very good article… Happy you are back to writing on your blog again. I was seriously looking forward to the articles.

    • horptie
      May 14, 2020 at 10:26 am

      Thank you so much for your time here. I do appreciate your words of encouragement… and many more articles to come because we are back to stay 💃💃💃

  • Mortal man
    May 14, 2020 at 4:45 pm

    Dope read ma’am!

    • horptie
      May 14, 2020 at 5:55 pm

      Thank you so much for stopping by

  • Favour Dada
    May 14, 2020 at 5:30 pm

    Hmm. This was very helpful. God bless you. More ink to your pen.

    • horptie
      May 14, 2020 at 5:54 pm

      I’m glad you found it helpful. And thank you so much.

  • Chuks
    May 14, 2020 at 5:51 pm

    Wow! A wonderful piece. I love it keep it up.

    • horptie
      May 14, 2020 at 5:57 pm

      Really glad the article met you well. Thank you for your time here.

  • Ibukundimeji
    May 14, 2020 at 6:04 pm

    Keep up the good work. We become what we think, it’s best if we constantly think positive things. 👍

    • horptie
      May 16, 2020 at 9:02 am

      Absolutely true! Thank you for your time here dear.

  • Alade Olalekan
    May 14, 2020 at 6:11 pm


  • thelamina
    May 14, 2020 at 6:47 pm

    Good words only…

  • Ben
    May 14, 2020 at 7:29 pm

    Nice one @ horptie. Thanks for pointing out how we could use of thoughts to our advantage. It is also good we learn to separate our thoughts from who we are. We are not our thoughts. This act of being self aware is very fundamental to living a health life.

    • Chika Mbanuzue
      May 14, 2020 at 7:53 pm

      Good read… Well said… Enlightening… Well done Horptie!!! Cheers.

      • horptie
        May 16, 2020 at 9:00 am

        Thank you for stopping by dear!

    • horptie
      May 16, 2020 at 9:01 am

      Absolutely! Thank you for highlighting that and for reminiscing on this post.

  • Henry Fakolade
    May 14, 2020 at 9:06 pm

    Amazing read, the power of thoughts, thank you of the this. The world must also be educated, will love to share.

    • horptie
      May 16, 2020 at 8:59 am

      I am glad you could relate with this write up. Thank you for your time here.

  • Olawale Ibitoye
    May 14, 2020 at 9:23 pm

    Great UI you’ve got here. Also, glad to have you back

    • horptie
      May 16, 2020 at 8:57 am

      Yayyyy…. I’m happy it makes my readers comfortable while on this space. Thank you!

  • Amy
    May 14, 2020 at 9:38 pm

    Congratulations on your first post on the new blog🥳🥳🥳. Loved the read. Choose to be a better human, dwell on good thoughts.👏🏾

    • horptie
      May 16, 2020 at 8:56 am

      Yes ooo… thank you so much. You my readers motivate me. I’m glad you could relate to it. Stay plugged in

  • Victoria Olaronke
    May 18, 2020 at 9:31 am

    Keep the fire burning sis, more revelation for you I pray.

    • horptie
      May 20, 2020 at 12:53 pm

      Amen. Thank you so much ma’am


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