A Lost Love Or A Love Lost
When you can’t get to tell the one person that should know about how you really feel because now it is too late to… that hurts, real deep. Most times, it crushes more than the love you didn’t ever get to express.
Knowing that it will have to stay buried inside of you for the rest of your life; seeing that the person would never get to know how you truly felt – That’s horrible.
It may not have been from pride. It may not have been from lack of the opportunity to let them know.
It could simply have been because you were waiting for the perfect moment. It could be because you didn’t want to be taken for granted or for being weak. It could definitely also be because you wanted the person to be the first to express. But the most common reason could be because you weren’t sure of what it was you felt, you didn’t want to make a mistake. Alas, you have it… because you never get to know for sure. How saddening.
You know when you feel you aren’t ready? Or you’re like, you have more worth or want to present yourself more valuable… gather the possessions, be totally up to the task? Yea, that too.
We forget there is room to build together. We forget it takes two indeed to tango. We seem to let go of sight on how much can be reached and covered
and ultimately achieved when all are on board even unto a common goal.
Mind-set they say, is everything.
Other times, not forgetting one’s self should be the reach. Because I must tell you that in all of the going around, getting mixed up in stuff, learning, gathering, helping and meeting people, Never lose yourself! Don’t lose yourself trying to help someone figure out who they are or can be. Don’t lose yourself from loving somebody else. Don’t lose yourself for someone who doesn’t even want to be “caught” or chased or given the attention, or someone not deserving of it (in a romantic relationship) … this could be what they bargained for – their targets, because vision does matters.
So take a clue. What common values do you have? What are your principles? What would they rather give priority to? I know there are moments, many of it’s kind actually where we forget ourselves, our worth, what we stand for, who we have been pursuing to be, the things we would rather achieve – still, we have to learn to never be an option. I hope we always get a pat on the back from someone who can help us get back to our feet, someone who can give us a reminder to retrace steps from losing ourselves.
At moments as these, I can only hope we have rings back into our hearing on how important “self” is.
There would always be a choice and there will always be something better in the long run. Do not settle. Allow
room for meeting at the middle. Compromise wisely. Give yourself in true loving while at it and walk when you both no longer agree (this can only apply at the stage before marriage, I am strongly not an advocate of divorce except on extreme bases).
… in the moment of “loving”, Love the real Lovers and if you happen to be with one who isn’t exactly truthful… then you do a quick walk-away. (Knowing you get to do the choosing!)
Remember always, Enjoy it while it all lasts.