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Maybe A Lost Love, Or Simply A Love Lost

A Lost Love Or A Love Lost

When you can’t get to tell the one person that should know about how you really feel because now it is too late to… that hurts, real deep. Most times, it crushes more than the love you didn’t ever get to express.

Knowing that it will have to stay buried inside of you for the rest of your life; seeing that the person would never get to know how you truly felt – That’s horrible.

It may not have been from pride. It may not have been from lack of the opportunity to let them know.

It could simply have been because you were waiting for the perfect moment. It could be because you didn’t want to be taken for granted or for being weak. It could definitely also be because you wanted the person to be the first to express. But the most common reason could be because you weren’t sure of what it was you felt, you didn’t want to make a mistake. Alas, you have it… because you never get to know for sure. How saddening.

You know when you feel you aren’t ready? Or you’re like, you have more worth or want to present yourself more valuable… gather the possessions, be totally up to the task? Yea, that too.

We forget there is room to build together. We forget it takes two indeed to tango. We seem to let go of sight on how much can be reached and covered

and ultimately achieved when all are on board even unto a common goal.

Mind-set they say, is everything.

Other times, not forgetting one’s self should be the reach. Because I must tell you that in all of the going around, getting mixed up in stuff, learning, gathering, helping and meeting people, Never lose yourself! Don’t lose yourself trying to help someone figure out who they are or can be. Don’t lose yourself from loving somebody else. Don’t lose yourself for someone who doesn’t even want to be “caught” or chased or given the attention, or someone not deserving of it (in a romantic relationship) … this could be what they bargained for – their targets, because vision does matters.

So take a clue. What common values do you have? What are your principles? What would they rather give priority to? I know there are moments, many of it’s kind actually where we forget ourselves, our worth, what we stand for, who we have been pursuing to be, the things we would rather achieve – still, we have to learn to never be an option. I hope we always get a pat on the back from someone who can help us get back to our feet, someone who can give us a reminder to retrace steps from losing ourselves.

At moments as these, I can only hope we have rings back into our hearing on how important “self” is.

There would always be a choice and there will always be something better in the long run. Do not settle. Allow

room for meeting at the middle. Compromise wisely. Give yourself in true loving while at it and walk when you both no longer agree (this can only apply at the stage before marriage, I am strongly not an advocate of divorce except on extreme bases).

… in the moment of “loving”, Love the real Lovers and if you happen to be with one who isn’t exactly truthful… then you do a quick walk-away. (Knowing you get to do the choosing!)

Remember always, Enjoy it while it all lasts.

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Colleagues call me Horptie, friends and family call me Titilope, my favorite though is Tytylurpe. I am a combination of all three. A Relationship Counselor, rational psych, transitionist yet a whelming being in all sense of the word.

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  • Femiyoung
    May 28, 2020 at 6:09 pm

    The phrase “no love lost” depicts enemity or some sort of hatred.

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    • horptie
      May 28, 2020 at 6:30 pm

      Very true and as it applies to this is something like when one loses the friendship, maybe not intentionally but because one party wanted more while the other didn’t… causing a rift and eventually a split.

      Thank you so much for pointing that out.

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  • Ben
    May 28, 2020 at 7:51 pm

    You addressed a very topical issue. The fear of not making a mistake is perhaps one of the biggest reason why many do not really express their feelings to a person they supposedly ”love”. That moment when you are not just certain.. So what’s the way forward? Lol.. Take the leap of faith and either crash or land safely…abi?

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    • horptie
      May 28, 2020 at 9:54 pm

      Omg!!! I like the latter part of your comment, made me really laugh.
      But to be honest, that’s all about what one can really do, which is why it is very important to take God along in all aspects of your journey as well as never giving up on love, never. Even in times one makes the mistake.
      Still, you keep trying. It is almost likened to how one should never give up even in face of failures as regards being a successful person.
      You get?
      Thank you for stopping by!

      Reply
  • Ben
    May 28, 2020 at 10:02 pm

    You’ve spoken well, ma’am. Smiles..I’ll take time to ponder on your thoughts.

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  • Mortal man
    May 28, 2020 at 10:03 pm

    “There will always be a choice…compromise wisely!” Very wise words.

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    • horptie
      May 28, 2020 at 10:06 pm

      I know it is sometimes easier said than done, I’ve been there countless times but really, you just need to keep hammering it in your ears and mind and God help you to stand firm.

      Thank you for your time here as always Mortal Man 🤗🤗

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  • Ibukundimeji
    May 29, 2020 at 4:38 pm

    So many of us makes the mistake of “waiting till we gather”, most especially our men. That shouldn’t be the case, once you have the potentials, you’re hard working and you’ve got God, please shoot your shoot and everything will start falling into place.

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    • horptie
      May 30, 2020 at 9:05 pm

      I love love the way you put this ma’am! And that work hard is important but ultimately God does the crowning.

      Thank you so so much for your contribution.

      Reply

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